So true!! Words matter and showing grace are two of the most important lessons I’ve learned to date. When we can’t change what’s been said, we can still own our words and show ourselves the kindness to know that the intent was never any harm. Taking responsibility for one’s language is a huge part of accountability and enables us to learn even more and remain open-minded to making mistakes along the way of each of our own journeys.
intent vs. impact is one of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned in my adulthood that I recall almost every day. I really appreciate the notes about grace here. It’s my second year in the program, and my previous mentee was almost aging out and had been through the program before. She was very prepared and on top of things by the time we started working together. This year, I’m working with a senior in high school who is doing her first year in the program. I’m definitely feeling the difference in these two mentees, and I’m trying to remind myself that I should have patience for my mentee and myself as we acclimate to the new year and to each other and extend grace as much as I can.
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This is spot on. It’s so much better to be actively accountable for any slip-ups you may have rather than hoping they fall by the wayside. I think for me, the biggest thing to remember is the intent vs. impact. It’s so easy to think that what you’re saying and doing is helpful/not hurtful, but even accidentally using the wrong tone can change everything. It’s super important to keep in mind as a mentor.