Whether you like it or not, everyone is born with a specific label. This consumes every aspect of a person’s life and in the end, determines interactions between them. Judgment in the public eye creates bias statements and a sense of unpleasantry. The moment someone is labeled a certain way by society it carries great consequences if they act out of character. This notion should be destroyed because everyone has different qualities and aspects that make them unique. Being subjected to act or perceive a certain way can create a sense of intoxication. From an interesting viewpoint, I can be identified as a person with a blunt personality. There are many qualities attached to my name and the reality that not all of them have been seen by the world is distressing. If the world saw oneself a certain way and only through those lenses, they wouldn’t be able to understand the bigger picture. 

The reality of being a blunt person has always stuck with me. The relief I get from helping out my friends with their daily challenges or constant venting sessions gives me a sense of belonging. The intriguing part about breaking down people’s perception of a situation or mental approach is that a majority of the time it’s advice I don’t take myself. Everything I provide comes off the top of my head; it’s mostly just common sense at this point. My ability to concoct a reasonable explanation for their problems helps them. I get great feedback for being a real friend who generally cares about being nothing but wholesome. The positive of this is that providing a truthful opinion on a matter without jumping around the bush helps them see all sides to their problems. Calling people out on their behavior helps with understanding what to do in the future and may start self-improvements. Getting advice from someone who sugar coats everything doesn’t do anything but create toxicity. People need to know right from wrong even if it means that I will offend them for being straightforward.

Of course, there will always be two sides to being a blunt person. That’s just how life works; in existence if there isn’t a sense of right or wrong, good or bad, then balance wouldn’t be created. The ugly truth is that being blunt takes a mental, physical, and emotional toll on oneself. Being a whole therapist can be time-consuming when you’re inexperienced and everything comes from the head. Not knowing the answers to why people act a certain way or why life is so complicated can be stressful.  It may sound like just because I’ve helped a bunch of people with their problems I would know the answers to all life problems. This is far from the truth; how can I help everyone but can’t help myself? The illusion that I can solve any problem and know the exact outcome of the situation is not true. When I say how a predicament will end and they don’t believe me it doesn’t bother me. In the end, they come back expressing astonishment that I was right and they should’ve listened to me. Being blunt most of the time receives the expression of being disrespectful. It may sound insulting or inconsiderable but that’s not the full picture. Sometimes the tone is important so people can take me seriously. Why should I lie and say a comment that I don’t believe in? People get pestered by my straightforwardness and wish I’d lied to them. I’m not in favor of boosting anybody’s high and mighty ego to make them feel good about themselves. My peers agree that I’m blunt and this isn’t insulting in my book. There is no one like me out there who is willing to say the truth even if it hurts. 

The story written out for me is that I am a blunt individual. Even though this title defines me it isn’t the only thing that makes me who I am. There are missing components to this narrative and only going off this chapter is bias. The unidentified parts can include my jokingly humor, respectfulness, hardworking, and optimism. I’m not always a mean person but when someone is in need I try my best to help out however I can. Going based on the notion that being blunt means I don’t have a decent respect for someone is wrong; I just want to get to the center of the problem. Most people tell lies and sugar coat information because they are afraid of the pain the person will feel. Life is full of pain and in such cases avoiding it will not make oneself a better person for in the end that feeling is inevitable.

Process

My inspiration for writing about my bluntness came after I was having a conversation with one of my close friends and I gave my unfiltered opinion on a question she asked. She proceeded to point out my bluntness and how since freshman year I’ve had the same attitude. This was one of the reasons she loved me as her friend because I don’t really lie to her. I decided to write about me being a blunt person and target the positive and negatives this characteristic  has had on my life, especially in middle and high school. I also asked a couple of my other friends what they think about this personality and they gave me their opinions on it. I’ve never addressed this side to myself and never really noticed how much of an impact it has on the people around me.